2022/01/17 The Goal of Being the First

‘The Goal of Being the First’

Rebecca Casimbon

(photo credit: pixabay)

    Being the first in anything can be quite scary. It can be very challenging and absolutely stressful. Being the first in the family, in class presentations, in a challenge, to finish a test, etc. all ask for you to be strong willed, determined, and patient.

    What makes it all harder is when we allow those in our lives to affect or divert our will, determination, and patience that hinder our chances to reach our goals.

    I know this all too well. My parents only received  their high school diplomas as my grandparents finished only junior high school. I am the youngest of four children and the first to obtain a Masters degree.

    I am currently pursuing my PhD and when I graduate, I’ll be the first in my whole immediate and extended family to be a Doctor of Philosophy. It was and still is beyond challenging and stressful since I am on this journey on my own. I do not have anyone in my immediate family that has walked this path before. None of my parents or siblings could have helped me on the journey of obtaining my Masters or my current PhD.

    Thankfully I have a north star in my very long journey of post graduate degrees. My brother-in-law, my mentor, father-figure, and friend has been my biggest and most consistent supporter since I was young, reminding me of my worth and potential. 

    Although I never experienced others making my journey in obtaining my Masters difficult, I was my worst enemy. My will, determination, and patience were challenged daily regardless of having my mentor in my corner.  I was my own worst cheerleader and I cheered loudly.

    This is when I had to teach myself more about self-love and self-worth. I needed to believe in myself. I needed to see what others saw in me and believe it. Once I started to implement these practices I was able to be a better cheerleader for myself. I was able to cheer with those who were in my corner. Now I am pushing even harder to finish my PhD.

10 Words to Learn


will (v.)

(英) To have a specified level of determination
(日) 決意する
(中) 下定決心
"He willed himself to turn back and face his fears.”

determined (adj.) 

(英) having made a firm decision and being resolved not to change it
(日) 決心する
(中) 下定決心的,堅決的
"Alice was determined to be heard."

patient (adj.) 

(英) able to accept or tolerate delays, problems, or suffering without becoming annoyed or anxious
(日) 忍耐強い
(中) 有耐心的
"Be patient, your time will come."

divert (v.) 

(英) cause (someone or something) to change course or turn from one direction to another
(日) そらす、転ずる
(中)  使改變方向,使轉向
"The fox wanted to divert Ruby from getting to her grandmother’s house."

pursue (v.) 

(英) (of a person or way) continue or proceed along (a path or route)
(日) 遂行する、追及する
(中) 追求,從事
"Pursuing your dreams is a brave action."

obtain (v.) 

(英) get, acquire, or secure (something) 
(日) 得る、獲得する
(中) 得到,獲得
"An opportunity to obtain advanced degrees are grand opportunities."

consistent (adj.) 

(英) acting or done in the same way over time, especially so as to be fair or accurate
(日) 首尾一貫した、矛盾しない
(中) 一貫的;堅持的
"The parents are being consistent and firm in their reactions.."

cheerleader (n.) 

(英) an enthusiastic and vocal supporter of something or someone, can be an organized performer in a team
(日) チアリーダー
(中) 啦啦隊隊員
"She was a cheerleader for her football team and big brother in the team."

self-love (n.)

(英) regard for one’s own well-being and happiness
(日) 自己愛
(中) 自愛
"Forgiveness is an act of self-love.”

self-worth (n.)

(英) another term for self-esteem. An individual’s subjective evaluation of their own worth
(日) 自尊心
(中) 自我價值
"Believing in yourself is an act of self-worth.”